How to live better, improve your well-being and find your own way to more happiness? A surprising practice,sexual energy but really powerful, can help you there: the orgasmic meditation.
Pauline, a 32-year-old mother, lies down, intrigued and a little impressed, without pants or panties, on blankets and cushions. Sitting next to her, Floridan, her husband, is waiting for instructions.
She accepts that he firmly touches her thighs, then she hears him describe her sex: its color, shape, texture. She has never felt so vulnerable. And at the same time as much in confidence and relaxed. She is doing her first internship of orgasmic meditation.
Orgasmic meditation, a meditative practice
The principle
Orgasmic meditation - OM for intimates, not to be confused with a certain football club in the south of France - is practiced between two partners, as a couple in life, or not. For 15 minutes, they will focus on the clitoris of the woman: the man (or woman), with his left index finger, stroking the clitoris of his partner. Both are "connected" by this point of contact, this small organ ultra-sensitive to eight thousand nerve endings. The connection to the other is in parallel with a connection to oneself. Everyone is listening to his feelings and emotions. This is a moment that can be very intense, some come out completely upset.
Desire is the source of energy powerful enough to bring change into your life.Nicole Daedone, leader of the slow sex movement, creator of the orgasmic meditation method and founder in 2001 of OneTaste
OM is first and foremost a form of meditation
OM, for orgasmic meditation in English, profoundly changes the life of its practitioners as a whole. Why ? Firstly because there is no goal to achieve. After 15 minutes, the partners stop the meditation and share the sensations and emotions felt during the session.
Then, because the woman is listening to his body, his feelings. Connected to her partner, relaxed, she does not seek to reach orgasm. She releases the pressure. She discovers her body and listens to what he expresses to her.
OM finally improves the quality of sex life. The man understands that the woman must not absolutely enjoy, that her orgasm is not reduced to her orgasm. The woman intellectualizes less and listens more to her sensations in the present moment. The search for the final explosion may prevent him from enjoying the present because he is already in the after. Few women know how to ask what they want. Here, they have the opportunity to learn how to do it.
On the other hand, OM reconciles women with sexual desire. Over time, the woman accumulates desire by practicing orgasmic meditation, and thus brings a real sexual desire to her partner. More complex if she has no orgasm, she knows how to find her pleasure differently. Forgotten inhibitions. What a relief, this serenity found!
Finally, the woman feels very much alive! The world changes color, life has another flavor. In tune with her feelings and emotions, anchored in the present, she finds herself even though she was not even aware that she was lost, very often. And she appreciates who she is. It is in this that OM is a form of meditation.
To know
It is imperative to undergo training before being able to practice (6). This takes place over a day or more, and practice at the end of the training is optional. If the group scares you, you can also bring a coach to your home. The group, for those who will be comfortable with this approach, will bring sharing, exchange, and collective energy. The cost varies, but is about a hundred euros per person (between 100 and 195 €). It is also possible to learn the practice with the book and the video on youtube (on the other hand, it is necessary to participate in a training with certified coach to join the community of practitioners, forum, circles of words, practices, etc.)The framework is strict and codified, the practice is done in conscience. Each stage of preparation is important. Already, the man and the woman feel free to answer "yes" or "no" at the request: "Do you want to OMer (practice OM) with me? ". Through little games, the coach prepares the participants to live well all the stages.
Then the partners start making their "nest" with blankets and cushions. Then they settle down, the woman lying down and the man sitting on cushions, to be both relaxed and in a comfortable position. Before each action, the man and the woman ask the agreement of the other: "can I lay my hand on your thigh? ". " Yes ". " Thank you ". Respect and agreement of the other are fundamental.
Without further details, we emphasize the framed nature of the practice and the respect of the participants.
Marie, 46, divorced, felt nervous and naked, lying next to this man she almost did not know. The presence of the group and the coach reassured her. His apprehension gradually disappeared as his feelings rose. She did not know that her clitoris could bring him so many sensations, in his sex and in all his body. This state of excitement lingered long after OM's session, and brought him an energy that gave a flavor to his hitherto unknown life.
Since then, she practices regularly and has the feeling of having become a different person, much more fulfilled and attentive to her desires in all areas of her life.
But why use the term "orgasmic" if there is no orgasm? OM is actually a path to orgasm. When she practices this form of meditation, the woman removes such vitality and sexual energy that her orgasms are more accessible and longer, more intense. Listening to her feelings, she savored her pleasure better during the sexual act. His libido is exacerbated.
Orgasmic meditation offers a definition of orgasm that corresponds to what a woman's body naturally does. It is not an event but a state, whose orgasmic meditation facilitates access. In this definition, orgasm integrates all uncontrolled physical sensations, and to welcome them into relaxation or to try to repress them makes all the difference.
Why try orgasmic meditation?
Are you intrigued, curious? Do you feel that OM could bring you a "je-ne-sais-quoi" (because you do not know yet) in your life? Maybe you do not want to "die silly" (I laugh)?
As soon as I heard about this practice, I immediately knew that I needed to try. It spoke to me totally. I was not disappointed, far from it. From the first session with Emmanuelle, the coach, I felt new sensations. This heat that is part of my clitoris, up to my belly, my chest, my shoulders and my head ... My arms and legs were fully relaxed. Now with my husband, we regularly practice orgasmic meditation and we feel closer than ever.
And the man in all of that ?
You may wonder what is the interest of the practice for the man? The man feeds on the connection to his partner. It's a moment of intense sharing, with respect and trust. He has no pressure, there is no purpose.
He learns to manage his sexual urges. Watch the sex of a woman, caress her clit and see her getting dressed again without anything more, that's what to practice self-control!
He is fully focused on observing his feelings, feeling his emotions and listening to requests from his partner, who will not say "it's bad! But "a little more to the right please ...Thank You
By dint of practice, the man manages to have multiple orgasms and sometimes without ejaculation, which is a loss of energy, as part of his sex life. It is a real relief for him to hear the woman ask, he who spends his time having to guess how to give him pleasure.
Marc, a 35-year-old dynamic entrepreneur who has been sexually complex since childhood, has always had erection problems. An ex-girlfriend advised him OM. Dubitatif at the beginning, he decided to try the experiment. The first time, he felt nothing during 15 minutes spent stroking his partner's clitoris with his left index finger coated with lubricant and covered with a plastic glove. He felt the magic working after the session, when he focused on his feelings, to describe them to the group. And he had only one desire: start again.
What orgasmic meditation is not
You have certainly understood, this is what OM is not: it is neither a new form of preliminary before the sexual act, nor a session of collective masturbation, nor a way to have orgasms .
It is an immense source of energy and fulfillment, sexual of course, but it goes far beyond. So, will you dare OMer?
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